Jittery about quitting?
HERE’S HOW YOU CAN GET OVER THE FEAR OF PUTTING IN YOUR PAPERS
I have come across many candidates who get the shivers when they have to resign because they feel they are letting their current boss/company down.They start getting apprehensive about how their boss would react.The very idea of quitting fills them with anxiety and too many ifs and buts start hovering over their minds, which leads to a never ending contemplation of whether they should resign today, tomorrow or next week.
It is common to go through such emotions; after all you have been part of your current organisation for a while.You tend to get emotionally and mentally connected to the organisation and its people. So here are a few tips that can help you resign without burning any bridges:
PEN DOWN THE REASONS
for quitting your job, and the reasons you are accepting the new job. Is the new opportunity promising to give you what your current employer is unable to? Speak with friends, family, spouse and significant other with whom you have previously shared your concerns about continuing with your current employer these conversations will come in handy and strengthen your resolve to move ahead;
IT IS ALWAYS ADVISABLE
to speak to your boss personally and inform him about your decision before dropping in a formal mail.You may also want to check with ex colleagues who resigned from the same boss and what was their experience at resigning. Did they speak before a formal resignation or was it the reverse? These insights will help you greatly to decide what’s the best way to resign, with the least amount of collateral damage;
THE DRAFTING OF THE RESIGNATION
mail requires skill and tact.You don’t want your boss to smell any weakness on your part that you are in two minds about leaving; this is counterproductive. Keep emotions at a minimum and try to put forward your thoughts objectively to the boss.Your recruiter must be able to help you with drafting this resignation mail;
MEETING YOUR BOSS
post the resignation mail letter may be a nerve wrecking exercise, but if you know what to expect, you would be prepared. Over and above what behaviour may be exhibited during the meeting, remember that you need to agree on the last date of working at the current employer and you need to agree upon all the projects you need to complete andor handover to ensure a smooth exit;
IT PAYS TO KNOW
what happened to the last two people who resigned from your team and what kind of behaviour did the boss exhibit. Be prepared for all situations and know that it is just the knee jerk reaction of the boss.As harsh as the reality sounds, nobody is indispensible to the company. Hence, know that whatever the reactions are, will soon tide over you need to be assertive in your decision and a “broken record“of assertiveness is a particular technique you may be happy to use;
BE PREPARED TO DEAL
with your boss’s reactions. He may be upset or disturbed after hearing you; that’s only because he is losing good talent. However, a good boss will always be happy to see his colleagues grow and move ahead. If your boss emotionally blackmails you and tries to lure you with a counteroffer, then this is only a trick to pull you back so as to get some time till he can find a replacement;
BE CAUTIOUS OF THE COUNTEROFFER
being given to you. 60 per cent of people who accept a counteroffer are disappointed due to broken promises or resign a few months after accepting the counteroffer. More often than not, the “bond“is broken between both parties.The loyalty of the employee will always be in question.When cuts have to be made, their name will be on the top of that list. Promotion prospects are severely limited;
PREPARE FOR THE EXIT INTERVIEW
as this is the time when the HR tries to evaluate why their good employees are leaving.Think as to what you would want to say and how you could be a constructive critic that will help the organisation change for the better.
-The author is MD, Antal International, India
This article has appeared in Times Ascent on May 27, 2015